Overcoming Our Shame And Growing From It

May 1, 2011 by  
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I was just reading the short piece on the Huffington Post of Laura Logan’s rape.  Laura is the CBS reporter who was raped by a mob during the Egyptian upheaval.

In the post I became stuck in the word shame.  As a sexual assault victim I remembered my own shame.  I’m sure there are many psychological reasons why women and men feel shame attached to their attacks, but I am brought to think about a particular one – shame of showing ourselves less than perfect.

We feel shame if we are raped, if we look physically different from an accident, if we are fired from a job, and if we are dumped from a relationship.  The reason – to most of us – why any of this has taken place is secondary to the shame we feel.  We become afraid we’ll show ourselves to be less than in the eyes of others.

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Breaking Through Without Tony Robbins

July 31, 2010 by  
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Late last night after a long day that involved welcoming my sister and nieces arriving from Brazil, I watched Tony Robbins’s show “Breakthrough” which I had previously recorded.   I was interested in seeing what the promos of the show had been advertising for weeks; people with great obstacles being taught and/or shown how to overcome them.

I don’t know much about Tony Robbins.  The extend of my knowledge amounts to talking to a few people that have taken his courses, skimming through his books, and catching minutes of commercials or infomercials on TV.  The reason I never gave him and his teaching more time than that is because I’ve never been too interested in mathematics when it comes to emotions.  Smile and say life is great three times and you will be happy.

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Ampsurf

May 14, 2010 by  
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If you ever thought you couldn’t do something, watch people without a limb surf.   It is inspiring and reminds us all we can overcome difficulties and most importantly we should appreciate who we are and what we have.

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Video Blog 2 – The Teflon Method

March 22, 2010 by  
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Happy New You

January 1, 2010 by  
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As I write, a large part of the world has already welcomed 2010 into their respective time zones.  My Pacific coast allies and more to our West, are still awaiting what many hope to be the beginning of the end of a not-so- wonderful time.

For each and everyone reading this, there are just as many stories to convey the journey of 2009.  There were, indeed, more hardships endured than most would like to admit to.  Yet, while not as well publicized, there were duly memorable encounters, as well.   My aim is not counter “the bad with the good”; it’s not to take sides with who were the givers or the takers of either.  I simply want to identify the fact, that each and everyone reading this, is here, on this planet, having already sang or will be singing “Auld Lang Syne” … in one form or another.  We survived, some perceivably better (or worse) than others, but we did it.

With beginning of a new decade in a still new millennium, there will be more chances, more ways, more time … to get it right, to make it better, to see it differently, to appreciate it more … to, simply, live better.  We all … young and old, rich and poor, boys and girls, the high & mighty and, yes, the not-so high & mighty …  get another chance.

At the moment and for the last week or so, I have been slightly derailed from my everyday way of doing things.  I’ve been temporarily sidelined due to an inflamed muscle.  Painful is just one description that comes to mind when answering to the curious.  In spite of time spent in this “altered state”, I have successfully convinced myself (a great first step to just about everything) that the condition that has been assigned to me will work for me.   As a matter of fact, I insist that it will.  No, it’s not just because of a new year, but because I chose a new direction.  And so can you, if you haven’t already.

New Year’s doesn’t have a lock on resolutions … you do.  Make up your mind that you are in charge of how you live your life.  The conditions afforded you are what should, in part, be your motivation … to get the job done.  Whether it’s a family matter, a career opportunity, a school choice, a vacation spent at home or on the other side of the world …  you make the choice.  Celebrate life … everyday of the year … this one and all that follow.

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