The Right Ingredients For A Balanced Relationship

June 14, 2010 by  
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Jack and Jill's wedSaturday night I had wine and cheese with two girlfriends at my house.  After a couple of glasses, one of them declared she was finally feeling like she didn’t need to fix everyone that came into her life.

I thought it was an amazing statement because this girlfriend is very kind and it is easy for her to go above board in reaching out.  That might seem like a contradiction when I’m often talking about community and compassion but it really isn’t.  In intimate relationships if we behave like the ultimate caretakers those will be the people we will tend to attract; people in need of ultimate caring.  These relationships are difficult to sustain as they become very one-sided.  One person does the caring the other receives.

If we want to be in healthy relationships, we need to accept people as they are and welcome them to be our partners in the journey of life without needing them to actually do the travel.

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Love Is Everything

April 7, 2010 by  
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“I ran up the door, opened the stairs,
said my pajamas and put on my prayers –
turned off my bed, tumbled into my light,
and all because he kissed me good-night!” –author unknown

I smile.  Is there anything more exciting and nerve racking than when meeting someone we like? I think about all the afternoons I have spent daydreaming; the plot lines constantly changing but the characters remaining the same.  I can almost feel that jittery feeling in my gut.  The first kiss, the first night together, the thoughts, the questions. How will things turn out? Will we feel like this forever?

Love is a life source. Once we acknowledge and embrace it, it colors every action we take. Love transforms us. Love beautifies us. Love fulfills us.

Poet Nikki Giovanni said: “We love because it’s the only true adventure.”

The ancient Greek playwright Sophocles wrote: One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life; that word is love.

And author Erica Jong said: “Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it…It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk everything, you risk even more.”

Once you truly love someone that love will always be in you.  Once you truly have been loved you’ll never settle for less.

“Nobody has ever measured, even poets, how much a heart can hold.”  ~Zelda Fitzgerald

Love today, with all your heart.