Putting Your Thoughts To Work To Change Your Life

May 25, 2012 by  
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A couple of days ago, I saw a friend I hadn’t seen in a while.  As we caught up with each other’s life changes the name of a mutual friend came up.  Unbeknownst to me, this mutual friend had quit her job and moved in with her boyfriend who lived in another state.  My comment was: wow.   Not because I thought it was out of this world for someone to quit their job and move in with someone else, but because it seemed unexpected.

After I shared my thoughts with my friend, she said our mutual friend had a board.  “A board?”  I asked.   “Yes, I board where she pinned her greatest desires.

It turns out our mutual friend had a white board and on it she pinned clear messages to the universe.  Her messages were about being with this particular man.

Now, we have all heard about people pinning things all over their walls.  So, why am I writing about this?

There is something really powerful about paying attention and giving energy to what we want.

I’m not talking about repeating like a parrot – without real meaning –  I want to be happy, or rich, or successful.  And I’m not talking about saying time and time again “I’m beautiful” or some other affirmation which most of the time we say without really believing.  I’m talking about a specific want like: “I want X studio to buy my Y screenplay” and giving the thought the respect it needs.

By concentrating on a particular want, we are taking our lives seriously, and we are letting the universe know we really want a positive outcome.  Our want becomes empowered by our energy.  It is different attitude from wanting something and then just sitting back to see what happens.

There is amazing power in taking a stance.  Know what matters to you and make it happen.  Have a board.  Say it out loud.  Tell a friend.  Tell yourself.   And see it come true.


The Truth About Positive Thinking

January 16, 2012 by  
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Positive thinking sells book, newspapers and magazines.  That’s it.

I’m not down on being positive. I’m down on a simplistic approach to finding greater contentment in life. Let me explain what I mean:

I don’t believe repeating I’m beautiful time and time again will actually get me to feel beautiful unless a lot of other personal work gets done.

I don’t believe posting notes all over the house with the words “I’m happy” will actually get me to be happy.

But I do believe in hoping for the best as it takes as much effort to dream of things coming out to our satisfaction as it does the other way around.

I also believe in not attaching such absolute qualities as good or bad to everything that happens. Life is more complex than that.  In every “bad” situation there is a possibility of good. But if we only see it as bad, then that possibility is not available.

Building a sense of gratitude, appreciation and connection with the self, I believe, will give anyone more satisfaction than the old “Don’t worry be happy.”

Repetition in and of itself is just that; repetition.

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Yes, I Suck: Self-Help Through Negative Thinking

April 16, 2010 by  
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I was reading the Huffington Post today and following on different links until I came across the piece below from Time Magazine on positive thinking.  Based on many studies the piece concludes that rather than keeping a mantra going of how wonderful we are, if we actually acknowledged our thoughts and feelings, we would have a more fulfilling and lasting experience.

I’ve always been of the mind that if we keep repeating something that we know not to be true like “I’m so happy” when we feel miserable, it will cause even more distress because all we are doing is underscoring the differences between what we are saying and how we are feeling.

Acknowledging how we feel and then moving on is an honest and courageous way to deal with our lives with lasting results.  Please read on.


By John Cloud

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In the past 50 years, people with mental problems have spent untold millions of hours in therapists’ offices, and millions more reading self-help books, trying to turn negative thoughts like “I never do anything right” into positive ones like “I can succeed.” For many people — including well-educated, highly trained therapists, for whom “cognitive restructuring” is a central goal — the very definition of psychotherapy is the process of changing self-defeating attitudes into constructive ones.

But was Norman Vincent Peale right? Is there power in positive thinking? A study just published in the journal Psychological Science says trying to get people to think more positively can actually have the opposite effect: it can simply highlight how unhappy they are…Continued