Learning To Release Control

June 13, 2012 by  
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I have always had trouble accepting weakness and/or the feeling of being powerless.  For people that know me this is probably a strange confession to make as I have always been a loving and compassionate and understanding person.

Maybe my difficulty comes from never wanting to accept the frailty that also resides in me.  Or it comes from the knowledge – buried deep inside – that I’m not 100% the master of my destiny.

There is still a part of me that believes it is all up to me.  I can make it happen if I’m strong enough or persistent enough.  That’s the part that I have been working on.

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How To Feel Centered In the Eye Of The Storm

April 27, 2012 by  
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Even though we know if we settle down, breathe and center ourselves that our outlook on life will change, we are often so ramped up that we are not able to do it.  Instead we feel like we are being swept up by life or at best trying not to trip while we’re running our perceived obstacle course.

It would be so simple to stop it all by just stopping our brain from jumping around.  But, somehow this simple action becomes unattainable.

As I go through my personal development I realize the three possibilities that play out:  1 – totally lost in life events and having a feeling of no control, 2 – partially lost while a nagging feeling that there is a different way to be keeps tugging at my psyche and 3 – a centered and in control experience.

I am proud to say that feeling totally lost in life events is no longer a reality for me. I now reside in the space between being partially lost and in control.

Getting to this space has taken a lot of self-growth.  I have had to learn to let go of comparing my life to that of others – after all every life is unique – as well as learning about acceptance and compassion.

When we learn to exercise acceptance and compassion toward ourselves we let go of demanding and unrealistic level of perfection.  We are reminded that life’s journey is about learning and attaining wisdom and there is no space for that without trials and tribulations.

Now, when we truly realize that there is no way to compare two people’s existence, as each one of us has a truly unique experience, we also drop envy and jealousy.

So armed with compassion and acceptance while rejoicing in the loss of envy and jealousy, we start to feel a sense of purpose and control over our responses to life’s events.

It is not an easy process.  And it’s not a process without setbacks. But, it is a process worth under taking.  Living as if we are mere leaves blowing in the wind is not the most satisfying way to walk through life.

So when life feels out of control; stop, breathe, exercise acceptance and compassion and see your outlook change.

 

 

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