Learning To Stop Blaming Ourselves

July 19, 2011 by  
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Something quite exciting has taken place in my psyche.  I have finally stopped blaming myself for everything.  Now, I’ve been working on my inner-voice – which was always so ready and willing to assign blame to me; its own host – for a long time.  But only now I can say I have succeeded not in stopping the voice, but in stopping the acceptance of the blame.  Let me be clear; I still hear the voice that wants to convince me that all bad things happen because of something I did or didn’t do.  But here is the change; it doesn’t affect me anymore.  And it doesn’t because I answer back by saying: “I’m not going to dwell in blame assigning because it serves no purpose.  Whatever happened has already happened.

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The Beauty Of Breathing

May 12, 2010 by  
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Many years ago, when I was still a dancer, I took a workshop with a woman from Argentina about using movement as a tool to help us connect with our psyche.

One of the things I most remember about this workshop is how shallow we breathe specially being that breath is literally the fuel we need to create energy to live.

Ancients commonly linked the breath to a life force. The Hebrew Bible refers to God breathing the breath of life into clay to make Adam a living soul (nephesh). It also refers to the breath as returning to God when a mortal dies. The terms “spirit,” “qi,” and “psyche” are related to the concept of breath.  So why aren’t we more aware of breathing?

I think we are often in such a hurry and so disconnect from nature and our physical selves that we don’t even realize that we are oxygen depleted.  Also, it seems to me that whatever we can do without thinking i.e. breathing is one less thing to be worry about.   But we are missing out on a free and simple method to infuse ourselves with energy and calm.

For almost a thousand years, meditation has used breathing to connect with the self.  But we don’t have to be meditating to use the breath’s healing powers of the breath.  Remembering to take long and full breaths a few times a day will also do the trick, especially when we feel stressed.

So make a change and start breathing with awareness.  You will feel more relaxed, gain energy and be connected with our own body.