The great poet and theologian Rumi, said “Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”
That’s the gist of Anne Naylor’s post. To find ourselves at an evolutionary point where feelings are neither good nor bad; they just are.
Having feelings and emotions is part of being human. Being dominated and controlled by them is neurosis. We cannot stop feeling and we cannot become different people. But we can allow the emotions and thoughts to exist without bowing down to them.
If we don’t underline and hang on to the negative emotions we actually have the possibility to turn pain and discomfort into something more fulfilling. Grief, the ultimately negative experience, if allowed to exist can teach us about empathy, compassion and letting go.
When I lost my husband I kept thinking that pain and loss could not be all that was left of him. As I allowed my grief all the space it needed without clamming to it and berating myself, I found the wisdom of acceptance.
Loving acceptance of our vulnerability and insecurities bring us emotional freedom. And with that compassion for others.
Can We Be Emotionally Free?
By Anne Naylor
What would life be like without emotional burdens like anxiety, depression, guilt, rage, self-doubt and shame? What does it mean to be “emotionally free”? Is it possible? Is it even desirable?
Part of the tool kit with which we human beings are born are our emotions. They must serve a purpose, or we would not have them. So far, so obvious. What would life be like without love, passion, enthusiasm, joy, excitement, exuberance, compassion, empathy or frustration, anger, resentment, envy, jealousy, greed and fear? Positive emotions serve to move us forward and expand our horizons. Negative emotions can trap us in a miserable downward spiral of hopelessness and despair…Continued
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“An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” – Marcel Proust
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” – Wayne Dyer
“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn
“To dream of the person you wish to be is to waste the person you are” – Unknown
“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln
“Perhaps our eyes need to be washed by our tears once in a while, so that we can see Life with a clearer view again.” – Unknown
“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.” – Buddha
“Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” – Stephen Covey
“I am not my memories. I am my dreams.” – Terry Hostetler
“To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right.” – Confucius
“Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” – William Wallace
“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world.” - Anne Frank
“Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.” – Albert Schweitzer
“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.” – Bruce Lee
“Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.” -Dale Carnegie
A Japanese proverb: “Fall seven times, stand up eight.”
“They who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” – Edgar Allan Poe
“There is one thing stronger than all the armies in the world, and that is an idea whose time has come.” – Victor Hugo