I often write about things that haunt me. It’s my way to share my path and process. As I learn how to untangle myself from my emotional handicaps – which are universal – I write about the methods and results.
Today, I want to write about something I’ve learned quickly and well: letting go of regrets. To me this particular lesson was a sink or swim. Let me give you an example. When I lived in NYC, I was married to a man for 11 years. I made a youthful mistake – I was 20 years-old when we got married. Within the first year of marriage, I already knew I was not happy, he was not happy, and we would never be happy together. But, I stayed for another 10 years. I stayed because I kept thinking that maybe I could turn the mistake into something positive. I stayed because each year that passed, I thought I had more invested and therefore had to try harder to make something of it. And I stayed, because I was afraid of making a mistake by leaving. In essence, all the wrong reasons for staying in a relationship.