5 Ideas For A More Satisfying Life

March 7, 2011 by  
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I don’t usually go for things like: ten ways to be happy now, or, do these three things and you’ll get everything you have always wanted out of life.  The reason being is I think humans are complex and finding and pursuing a state of well-being is a life-long commitment without easy answers.  But there are general concepts that I believe every person working towards a better life should consider adopting.

1                     – A Sense Of Purpose

We all need that “thing” which gets us up in the morning and keeps our hearts and brains going even when the going gets tough.   We all have desires with meaning which is the gas that keeps our engines going.  The problem is sometimes we get so lost between what society, parents and friends think and expect of us that we lose touch with our purpose.  Finding, reconnecting and embracing our purpose translates into huge steps towards a more fulfilling life.

2                     – Living in the Present

Anyone who thinks “I’m going to be happy when…” I get the job, the money, the relationship I deserve, is in for a big surprise.  Life seldom works as planned.  Something always comes out of left field and postponing being satisfied today for a planned future that may or may not happen seem like a waste of life.

Remember the millions of people that lost their retirement funds years back.  Or couples who plan enjoying life when they retired only never to make to retirement age.

Let’s live in the present and enjoy the relationships, job and money we have today.

3                     - Make Sure There Are Things In Your Life Every Day That Bring You Wellness

That’s so simple to do.  We all have some easy, inexpensive, simple things we can do that can bring us a smile.  Is that sitting in the park for ten minutes?  Calling a loved one and really being present in the conversation instead of going through a to-do list?  A warm bath?  A candle lit dinner?  Even pizza with candles can be a great experience.  A romp with a dog? A romp? Whatever that “thing” is for each one of us, sprinkling these activities a couple of times or even once during the course of our day will affect our mood and ultimately our well-being.

4                     – Relationships

Relationships are like flowers (sorry for being corny here) and if we don’t tend to them they will wither and die.  How many articles, books and movies have been made about a person who dedicates his or her life to achieving goals to only be completely miserable because of not having anyone to share their success with?  We are social beings.  We need each other to survive both physically and psychologically.

There have been many studies that have stated one of the main qualities found in people living long lives is being part of a group. Sharing our lives with others make us feel part of something and feeds our hearts.   In groups we give and receive.

5                     – Give Something Of You To Someone Else

Helping others with our time and energy, places us top in the animal chain. We all need to feel we are contributors in the betterment of this world.  Any gesture, small, medium, or large, will do the trick for us.

Say hello to your neighbor.  Smile at a stranger.  Donate some of your time to a cause.  Loan a shoulder to a friend.  You will feel much better.

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Get Rid Of False Pride

July 15, 2010 by  
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I have found the following definitions for pride on the web:

  • a feeling of self-respect and personal worth
  • satisfaction with your (or another’s) achievements; “he takes pride in his son’s success”
  • the trait of being spurred on by a dislike of falling below your standards

Most of us have a frail or misplaced sense of worth.  We look at our world accomplishments to base our sense of self-respect and pride on, i.e. “I have X amount of dollars in the bank”, or “I’m really important I have Y job.”  But what happens when we lose the money or the job?  Do we also lose our sense of personal worth?  If someone tells us the job we are so proud of is not that important, do we lose our self-respect? Read more

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Slowing Down For Self-Love

June 3, 2010 by  
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heart on the beach

heart on the beach

I’ve always wanted to do important things.  I don’t know where that came from but since I was a little girl I felt the pull for something “big”.

As I grew up that inner feeling turned into inner drive and some of my desire to do “big” things started to be associated with career success.  All of that would have been fine if I along the way didn’t loose – or maybe I never had – the ability to appreciate qualities and accomplishments of mine that I didn’t judge by the same standards I considered material success.  That was my loss and the result; a steady decline in self-esteem.

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Self Sabotage; A Very Dangerous Activity

May 24, 2010 by  
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heart in hands

heart in hands

Here’s a question, how many of us tell ourselves the following phrase “I’m going to show them” over and over again?  How many of us actually cause things to go wrong and by saying “I’m going to show them” we have a false feeling of vindication?

Let me be specific.  We decide we want something in life: a promotion, a career, a relationship, then we orchestrate things to a point where things go south, we then become the victim but underneath is all is the fact we didn’t live through what we professed we wanted in the first place.    We were scared of either really succeeding or loosing and so we manipulate ourselves, others and situations so we can end up like victims.  And as victims we can obtain a false sense of courage with things like: I’ll show them.  Wouldn’t it be easier to really try for whatever we want?  If we failed or won wouldn’t that be rewarding?

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Video Blog 5 – Making The Decision To Have A Happier Life

April 12, 2010 by  
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Having a more satisfying life starts with the making the decision of being happier today.

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