Finding Real Meaning In Our Lives

September 9, 2010 by  
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Angie Rubin

Tuesday afternoon I had a lengthy conversation with a friend who is also a therapist.   We talked about meaning, fame and success; all important themes in my life.

For most of my life meaning and success have meant cause and effect; there is no meaning without success.  Because success’ currency in our society is fame and fortune, I for many years felt my life unimportant.

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Ten Commandments Worth Following

August 4, 2010 by  
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There is nothing new under the sun.  Everything that is happening now has happened before.  Our needs, desires and afflictions have always been the same.  All that changes are the circumstances.

That is why we can go back centuries and be inspired by the teachings and writings of many before us.

Jonathan Swift (1667-1745) was an Anglo-Irish satirist, essayist, poet, cleric and the dean of St. Patrick’s Cathedral in Dublin.  He wrote such works as “Gulliver’s Travels”, “Modest Proposal”, and “The Battle of the Books” among many.

He has also left us some amazing quotes that put together could read as the 10 commandments according to Jonathan Swift.

  1. “May you live all the days of your life.”
  2. “A man should never be ashamed to own that he has been in the wrong, which is but saying… that he is wiser today than yesterday.”
  3. “A wise man should have money in his head, but not in his heart.”
  4. “Although men are accused of not knowing their own weakness, yet perhaps few know their own strength.”
  5. “It is in men as in soils, where sometimes there is a vein of gold which the owner knows not of.”
  6. “I’ve always believed no matter how many shots I miss, I’m going to make the next one.”
  7. “The latter part of a wise person’s life is occupied with curing the follies, prejudices and false opinions they contracted earlier.”
  8. “As love without esteem is capricious and volatile; esteem without love is languid and cold.”
  9. “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”
  10. “Censure is the tax a man pays to the public for being eminent.”

With these 10 quotes Jonathan Swift reminds us to live every day and not just exist,  to not be ashamed to come forward when wrong,  to not make money our mistress,  to connect to and honor our own strength,  to see the beauty in ourselves and others, to take loss as a stepping stone to success, to embrace the period in our lives where wisdom and experience will take us away from false opinions and prejudices, that love without caring is just passing passion, to keep our desires in check,  and to finally understand as we take a stance we may become more popular but maybe not the way we imagined.

As you can see the wisdom in these 10 quotes still hold as much truth today as they did when Jonathan Swift first wrote them. Embracing the truth they contain is a very worthwhile endeavor.