Can You Afford To Be Vulnerable?

June 2, 2011 by  
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My father is in the hospital.  He’s 86 years old.  But this post is not about his health issues but about the changes that I have noticed in my emotional response.

Before my husband passed away, I wore a thick protection around my heart.  By no means I was cold, but I behaved tough and decisive.   The truth is I had so much love in me that I was afraid to feel it all.  I was afraid of what it would do to me.  So I took on a posture; life is tough and I am tough.

Now there is a great difference between being tough and being strong.  Tough as mentioned before is a posture. Strength is the result of lessons learned and wisdom acquired.

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Expectation; Often A Tough Pill To Swallow

March 22, 2011 by  
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Expectations.  Even the word has too many letters.

We wish for “things”, and in the time between dreaming about them and having them happen, we let our emotions make those “things” become the answer to all our ailments.  So unfortunately when those “things” finally happen – or some form of it– our expectations are too out of touch with reality. Let me give you an example:  A woman wishes for a relationship.  While she waits for a man to come into her life she day-dreams about how this man will sweep her off her feet and she will live happily ever after.  The woman meets a man.  Now she has dreamed all kinds of scenarios with her man, and when the reality doesn’t follow along with her dreamed up situations; she feels let down.  Another example would be a man dreaming all the things he will do and all the things he will feel when he gets his dream job.  But, when he finally gets the job he had been pining away, he feels let down.  The reality does not correspond to his expectations.

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How To Be A True Friend

August 6, 2010 by  
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A friend called yesterday to tell me about Tony Robbins’s show “Breakthrough” being cancelled.  I thanked him for the call but told him I already knew.  The reason my friend wanted me to know about the show going off the air was because we had discussed an idea I had for an inspirational show that he thought people would not be interested.  My friend had argued that in tough times audiences are looking for fun and escapism.  I argued back that seeing others go through difficulties and managing to grow and come out on the other side, made us feel less alone and with more courage to do battle.

Anyway, after I hung up the phone I wondered why the show had failed.  After all Tony Robbins is an amazing successful speaker.  So what happened?

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