Learning To Stop Blaming Ourselves

July 19, 2011 by  
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Something quite exciting has taken place in my psyche.  I have finally stopped blaming myself for everything.  Now, I’ve been working on my inner-voice – which was always so ready and willing to assign blame to me; its own host – for a long time.  But only now I can say I have succeeded not in stopping the voice, but in stopping the acceptance of the blame.  Let me be clear; I still hear the voice that wants to convince me that all bad things happen because of something I did or didn’t do.  But here is the change; it doesn’t affect me anymore.  And it doesn’t because I answer back by saying: “I’m not going to dwell in blame assigning because it serves no purpose.  Whatever happened has already happened.

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Living Life In Black And White

May 28, 2010 by  
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”The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”
Albert Einstein

I’m one of those people whose natural tendency is to see the world as black and white.  I’m right then you must be wrong.  I’m good then you must be bad.

I have had to work hard within my own psyche to see the world as it is; grey and messy.

Living life in black and white mode causes a lot of unnecessary suffering.  If we are good and right then when wronged it is easy for us to feel 1 – that the whole world is against us, 2 – as a victim.

We are neither a victim nor the whole world is against us.  Other people are too busy trying to make sense of their own lives.

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