Can You Afford To Be Vulnerable?

December 16, 2011 by  
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“If you hold back on the emotions–if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them–you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.” — Mitch Albom

There is a great difference between being tough and being strong.  Tough is a posture. Strength is the result of lessons learned and wisdom acquired. Opening our hearts and being vulnerable is a consequence of being strong.

When we are afraid of emotions it is often because our core is not strong enough.  We are afraid of life’s intensity.  And we are afraid to feel hurt.  When we feel stronger we can let go of our defense mechanisms and experience life in all its intensity.

But how do we get stronger? By creating an intimate relationship with our own selves. By learning to listen to our inner-voice. By trusting who we are and our abilities.

When we are stronger our emotions flow easily, because we know we don’t have to hide; we will not crumble.  Our vulnerability becomes anchored in the wisdom we have gained from being open to life’s experiences.  And life is richer for that.

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Can You Afford To Be Vulnerable?

June 2, 2011 by  
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My father is in the hospital.  He’s 86 years old.  But this post is not about his health issues but about the changes that I have noticed in my emotional response.

Before my husband passed away, I wore a thick protection around my heart.  By no means I was cold, but I behaved tough and decisive.   The truth is I had so much love in me that I was afraid to feel it all.  I was afraid of what it would do to me.  So I took on a posture; life is tough and I am tough.

Now there is a great difference between being tough and being strong.  Tough as mentioned before is a posture. Strength is the result of lessons learned and wisdom acquired.

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Having The Courage To Be Vulnerable

November 24, 2010 by  
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Check out this Ted (ideas worth spreading) Houston Talk by Brené Brown. In this video Brené discusses how being afraid of our vulnerability keeps us from connecting to others. She offers having the courage to fully be our imperfect selves as the solution.

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