Learning to Appreciate What We Already Have

June 26, 2010 by  
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“All appears to change when we change.” -Henri-Frédéric Amiel

“…our moment-to-moment happiness is largely determined by our outlook.  In fact, whether we are feeling happy or unhappy at any given moment often has very little to do with our absolute conditions but, rather it is a function of how we perceive our situation, how satisfied we are with what we have.” – Dalai Lama

It is okay for us to have dreams and work towards achieving them but having an appreciation for our already achieved accomplishments is what gives us a sense of well being.  If our eyes are always in the future, then our present has no value and we feel depleted and dissatisfied.  Life is meant to be lived in the present.

Remembering that our successes have been hard won and that at some point they were what we desired, allows us to appreciate our lives today.

But unfortunately many of us believe we will be happy once we get a partner, child, or money, and postpone feeling contentment today because in our minds we couldn’t be happy without those things.  It’s the old “Everything is going to be great once I get XYZ”. What we don’t realize is with that frame of mind as soon as we get XYZ, 1 – We are going to be already pining away for the next thing  and 2 – We will not be happy because feeling happy is independent of things outside of ourselves.  Feeling happy is a state of mind.

The healthy reason for working towards a goal and achieving it is to have a sense of satisfaction.  We miss the point if we never slow down to appreciate what have accomplished and what we have.

All of us have something in our lives that we can be grateful for.  And all of us, if open to receiving, can gain much satisfaction from simple things is our daily lives.

As the Dalai Lama said in his quote: happiness is a function of our perception of our own lives.

  • Winsor Pilates


2 Responses to “Learning to Appreciate What We Already Have”
  1. as I write I am also reminding myself to live today. It is in being in the moment that we get to appreciate what we already have; our health, our ability to appreciate the sun, love or just a flower on a tree.

  2. jeneshleman says:

    so very true. it is easy to look ahead and try to find things that will “make” us happy…when in reality, looking ahead does nothing but “look ahead” at something that doesn’t exist. life is now. enjoy all we are given.

    this was a great reminder for me. thanks.