Find What Really Matters To You And Have A Meaningful Life

July 26, 2010 by  
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I must ask you again to indulge my story telling ways as I go around the world to make my point.

Saturday night I watched Valkyrie with Tom Cruise.  The film tells the story of the last attempt by German officials to assassinate Adolf Hitler.

It is not a great film but the real story is; men who saw wrong and risk their own lives to make it right.

I often talk and think about what gives meaning to our lives.  These German soldiers, Nelson Mandela, and many others throughout history, show us in a clear way what it is to believe in something so much that they are willing to lay down their lives for it.  But having meaning in life doesn’t have to involve life or death or big statements.  To most of us it means connecting to what is important and giving it its due respect.

At the end of 2007, my late husband Chris and I were visiting my family in Brazil.  I was really tired from having worked in a film that had become a train wreck as well as all the pain of witnessing the decline of my husband’s health.

While walking around the streets of Rio de Janeiro, I found a lighting store and bought a beautiful chandelier to bring back home.  When we arrived in Los Angeles and opened the box, some of the crystal had broken.  In my state of mind it was easy for me to start saying things like “why is it that nothing can go right?”  Hearing that Chris said: “I don’t care about a chandelier.”

After Chris’ liver transplant in 2006 he stopped shaking hands because of the danger of contracting a virus or bacteria from someone else.  Transplant patients have to be on immunosuppressant so the new organ wont’ be rejected making them highly susceptible to all kinds of illnesses.

Chris didn’t touch anyone but me from July 2006 through July 2008.  In one of his last stays in a hospital he had so missed human touch that he asked everyone that came to see him to give him a hug.  He was like a child laughing, hugging and loving every moment of it.

When we talk about connecting to what is meaningful in our lives, it is never about chandeliers and always about people.

Society, which we have created, keeps telling us to spend our time and energy in making more money, fighting aging, buying things and telling everyone how well we are all doing.  I think money is great, taking good care of ourselves is wonderful but neither brings true contentment.   Finding out what makes us feel special and doing it, does and it is better than any anti-aging cream or açai.

  • Winsor Pilates


One Response to “Find What Really Matters To You And Have A Meaningful Life”
  1. John Lee Johann says:

    Thank you, Deborah for your love of life. The meaning found in your passion, acceptance, and faith is such a powerful gift for all of us to share. It is easy to see your dedication and devotion to unselfish global concerns. You really believe wholeheartedly in the gravity and spirit of life. Even when the chandelier breaks.