Finding Connection In A Complex World

September 4, 2010 by  
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By Angie Rubin

We live in a world of many points of view.  We are a planet of Christians, Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Atheist and many more.  We are Republicans, Democrats, Anarchists, Independents, Libertarians, Green and Apolitical.  We are men, women, gay, and transgender.  These are the things that set us apart.  What bring us together are love, compassion, understanding, happiness, courage, integrity and decency.

If we peel the onion of segregation we find an all-encompassing heart.  Underneath it all most of us want the same things; food, shelter, safety and love.

Yesterday I posted on my Facebook page a article on scientist Steve Hawking’s latest book in which he sets out to prove god doesn’t exist.  I’m not going to get into the discussion of the veracity or lack off of his assertions- which is not the point of this post – but instead would like to talk about the way we approach a dialogue can lead to possible success of certain failure.

While it would be easier to live amongst like-minded people we know that is impossible simply because we live in cities, countries, and a planet that is occupied by diverse people and ideas living next door to each other. So bottom line is we need to learn to converse because there are decisions to be made that affect all of us; our environment, education, economy and politics.

I am someone who is guilty of having spent many years of my life clinging to my truth and aggressively trying to prove that I was right.  After many years of life I now know that is just wrong and a complete waste of time.  I have learned when dealing with someone who from the outside seems to have many opinions that differ from mine that I should not engage in the differences but instead look for the similarities.  Once trust and respect is established we have a much better chance to resolve our differences or find a way to let the differences be without discord.

Because there are extremists on all sides of “hot” issues it is our responsibility – people with more stable minds and hearts – to not shut doors on each other’s faces and continue to repeat our mantras to ourselves and like-minded friends; I’m right they are wrong.  I’m smart they are stupid.  The stakes are too high.  We can’t afford not to find ways to co-exist because if we fail the extremists will make us pay the price.

  • Winsor Pilates


2 Responses to “Finding Connection In A Complex World”
  1. Hi Paul,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts.

    Of course I do think crime of any kind is wrong. Any action that anyone takes that causes harm and pain to someone else, should be regulated by society. So robbery, rape, murder aren’t and shouldn’t be permitted. But I think believers can live next door to atheists. Gays can live next door to families. Non-traditional families can live next door to traditional families. Should Christians only marry Christians? Should Jews only marry Jews? What I am trying to say is who we are and our personal choices and points of view should be respected. You mention moral direction. Who is above everyone to set a moral direction? And what would that be based on? My thoughts, yours, the president, the neighbor? Isn’t it more compassionate to accept people’s differences and find a way to live together? Best, Deborah

  2. Paul says:

    So there are no absolutes, no right or wrong? Everything is permitted? If it feels good do it in the privacy of your own home? That’s why we are where we are right now. Just watch the news and count the crimes. There is no moral compass and we are trying to fill that void with whatever thing comes along no matter how corrupt it may be. It’s a vacuum of being without a moral direction.