Learning To Make Decisions Without Fear

September 7, 2010 by  
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Angie Rubin

Life is not cast in stone.  It is cast in sand.

That’s what I told my fifteen year old niece when talking to her on the phone today.   She was feeling insecure about the classes she had chosen to take this semester.  She said “I want to make the absolute right decision.”   I tried to explain to her there are no certainties.  We make what we think is the best decision and then we move forward with certainty.

I also tried to tell her life is ever changing and having the ability to let go of the past and live in the present was more important than making the absolute right decision.

Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday. – Don Marquis

We all have different qualities and procrastination has never been an issue for me.  In wanting to help my niece I thought about what makes me have the ability to make decisions quickly while others spend much energy in trying to figure out the absolute right.  The answer came quickly:  I’m not afraid to take responsibility for my actions.  And the why is below:

    1. I understand there are no absolutes and so I make the best decision I can and move on
    2. I understand tomorrow will bring a new set of issues – that I don’t yet know – that could affect my decision.  So I might as well decide, move on and deal with new circumstances when they happen
    3. I realize whatever the consequences; I can always rely on my own resourcefulness
    4. Life is a dance between my thoughts and decisions and other peoples.  I can’t foresee or control everything

    But most importantly I wanted my niece to know that one decision alone does not seal someone’s fate.

    Worry ducks when purpose flies overhead.  ~C. Astrid Weber

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