The Problem With Happiness

October 1, 2010 by  
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Check out the below article by Todd Kashdan on the Huffington Post.

In the article, Todd writes about the pressure to be happy and I couldn’t agree more.  First because happiness is not something that comes one size fits all.  Second, happiness is a momentary feeling.  It doesn’t last.  Anybody that tries to sell you a book, a class or a session in how to be happy is trying to make money off of your confusion.

Life is made up of highs and lows and so feeling blue is part of it.  Now achieving a sense of well-being and stability is highly attainable and it only requires us to be present in our own lives and concentrate on what is really meaningful to us.

As I grew up in another country and am often abroad, I can also point to an American cultural obsession of packaging everything, as one of the culprits of the billion dollar “how to” industry.  Ours is a culture of; “3 Days To Better Sex”, “How to be Successful In Life”, and “How To be Happy Phenomenon”.  We don’t want to just relax, be in the moment and have beautiful sex.  We have to have great sex by following methods written in books.  Or we don’t want to just be and have fun.  We must learn to be happy by reading how in books or from therapists that will teach us how.

If we stop running around for answers and actually slow down, there is much to appreciate that can give us a sense of fulfillment.

The answers we are looking for in how to books lie within ourselves. If you want to attain a sense of purpose and well-being, take the plunge inside your own self and life.


By Todd Kashdan

Asked what is the fundamental objective of life, the vast majority of people answer quickly and definitively — happiness. Their lives are organized around trying to be happy. Sounds good, right? Sounds even better when you read about the scientific benefits linked to happiness. Compared to less happy people…

  • Happy people have stronger, more intimate friendships.
  • Happy people are more likely to be in satisfying romantic relationships.
  • Happy people sleep better.
  • Happy people are more creative….Continued
  • Winsor Pilates

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