Why Embracing Grief Is The Only Way Out Of Loss

March 27, 2011 by  
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I believe one the hardest feelings we deal with when grief strikes, is the overwhelming sensation of loss.  Loss means we had something which we no longer have.  Initially, there is nothing positive about it.  But, if we are to heal and to change as human beings we must embrace the loss and transform it.

I remember when my husband passed away how I kept saying to myself and others; “There has to be something positive out of this incredible pain.  If not, it is complete devastation and I may not survive.”  I soon found what was positive for me out of all that I had lost; it was a deeper understanding of love, life, compassion and empathy.  As well as becoming more comfortable in my own skin.

Less than I year before from my late husband’ passing, I started the Love Project Inc., a book of our history together and I also added a number of social causes to my agenda.

When we hurt we can either stay in pain and anger or we can turn our scar into a new way of being.

I, like Allison, use writing as a tool to embrace, learn and express.  What is your tool?  Writing? Marathon running? Charity work? Sewing? Figure out what allows you to embrace your loss and transform it into something of meaning.  Once you know what it is make it your constant companion.

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2 Responses to “Why Embracing Grief Is The Only Way Out Of Loss”
  1. Jacquie says:

    Elisabeth Kubler-Ross is one of the best authors to read when you’ve gone through loss. I loved On Death & Dying and I’ve also read The Tunnel & the Light. How to Deal with Grief by Karen Colquhoun is a good read too. What I have found difficult is that people who havent gone through something big don’t understand. I have lost 2 close friends and many relatives. The one that hurt the most was losing my grandmother.

    • Hi Jacquie,

      Thanks for your reading suggestions. We all deal with loss in our own way.

      I find the best support we can offer others when loss occurs is to just be there giving them the space to grief while letting them know we are standing by. It is not everyone that can offer that.

      All the best,