Learning To Leave Our Egos Aside For The Benefit Of Our Relationships

July 13, 2011 by  
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The post below includes some practical ideas on how to avoid unnecessary confrontations with our partners.  I’d say the same goes to friends and family.

We all see the world and process information in different ways.  And although there is no right and wrong way, most of us believe we are right.  That feeling of being right comes from not seeing how anyone else could interpret ideas and occurrences in different ways than us. That’s ego speak.  Because if you stop for a moment you will know that each individual with their own set of experiences and qualities will experience life in a different way.

So what do we do to deal with these differences?

The small stuff we don’t sweat.  We let it go. Who cares who is right when remembering something incidental that happened in the past? Is that worth your peace and your friend’s or partner’s peace?  Does it matter who is right about the time you said you were going to meet?  Unless that becomes a regular issue, it really doesn’t matter.

The only time it really matters to discuss a difference of opinion it is when it’s going to impact the relationship.  But even the way you approach the discussion should be non-threatening and not about making a point on who is right and who is wrong.  It should be about coming to a mutual understanding of the need for a change that will benefit the two people and the relationship.

The health of a relationship is what is always the most important.  The sum of the parts is greater than the parts.  Having that in mind will help keeping our egos in check.

Please read on…

I’m Right, You’re Wrong: Egos and Relationships

By Walter Jacobson M.D.

Happiness in relationships is a choice. Here’s how it works: Our partner says something we disagree with, whether it be an observation about us, a recollection of something we said or did, or a perspective about the world and its workings.

Rather than let it go or agree to disagree, we often tend to get caught up in our ego and its need not just to be right, but to also have our partner acknowledge that we are right. And so we make an issue out of who’s right and who’s wrong. We make a mountain out of a molehill…Continued

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