Learn To Appreciate Who You Are And What You Have

December 21, 2011 by  
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If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get – Frank A. Clark

One of the great stumbling blocks for being content right now is our constant need to wish we were someplace else or that our lives were different.  How many of us have said or thought: “I’m going to be happy when I get XYZ” or “I’m holding off experiencing XXX for when I have XYZ.”  Here’s a news flash: we may never get or have XYZ or at least in the manner we dream about.  So does that mean we give up on being content?  Absolutely not; we give up in not living our lives today for a future which may or may never happen.

Concentrating and appreciating who we are and the lives we have today is key to lightness of the heart.  Listening to what others are doing with jealousy and badgering ourselves over what we don’t have, results in frustration and unhappiness; there is no need for that.  Every single one of us has enough reasons to appreciate our lives TODAY.   We can certainly give merit to our relationships.  We can certainly give merit to our accomplishments.  And we can certainly give merit to our plans and to who we are.  We can also give merit to the simple and free pleasures; nature, and whatever pleasures you fancy like a great meal, a glass of wine of a delicious cup of coffee.  It is really truly up to us.

Instead of wishing for the job, money, partner that we want and may not have yet; let’s enjoy the friends, family or accomplishments already achieved.  Let’s strategize where we want to go, but let’s live in the present.  Let’s find in each moment the richness that creates it, because even in loss and sadness there is great wisdom to be experienced.

Don’t sell yourself short and trash the life you have for an imaginary happiness.  Because the truth is: happiness and contentment are not results from anything outside ourselves.  It all comes from within.  And if you agree with that statement it is in your reach to achieve contentment right NOW.


Failure, A Path To Success

April 26, 2010 by  
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Failure is an event, never a person.  ~William D. Brown, Welcome Stress!

This is what Wikipedia says about what the criteria for failure is: “The criteria for failure are heavily dependent on context of use, and may be relative to a particular observer or belief system.”

If you spend your life comparing yourself to others and beating yourself down when you failed it is not the world that is against you; it is you who is against yourself.

We so often compare ourselves to others and try to measure up our accomplishments to theirs without any regard for the fact that no two people are alike.  No two people have the same set of upbringing, experiences, or ways to process the world.  So how can we compare our successes and failures to other people?  It would be like comparing an apple to an orange 🙂

Failure is part of success as much as night is part of day.  Through failure we learn and hone our knowledge and ability so we can eventually succeed at whatever we have set our minds and energy to accomplish.

The difference between people who become successful and the ones that don’t is; the successful people have taken their fall as a way to stand up stronger.   The people that fail take their fall as a way to make sure they will always stay down.

So don’t waste your time chastising yourself.  Learn the lessons as you fail and enjoy the process, which is often more rewarding than the successes themselves.

The only time you don’t fail is the last time you try anything – and it works.  ~William Strong

Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure… it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.  ~Robert Schuller