Learn To Appreciate Who You Are And What You Have

December 21, 2011 by  
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If a fellow isn’t thankful for what he’s got, he isn’t likely to be thankful for what he’s going to get – Frank A. Clark

One of the great stumbling blocks for being content right now is our constant need to wish we were someplace else or that our lives were different.  How many of us have said or thought: “I’m going to be happy when I get XYZ” or “I’m holding off experiencing XXX for when I have XYZ.”  Here’s a news flash: we may never get or have XYZ or at least in the manner we dream about.  So does that mean we give up on being content?  Absolutely not; we give up in not living our lives today for a future which may or may never happen.

Concentrating and appreciating who we are and the lives we have today is key to lightness of the heart.  Listening to what others are doing with jealousy and badgering ourselves over what we don’t have, results in frustration and unhappiness; there is no need for that.  Every single one of us has enough reasons to appreciate our lives TODAY.   We can certainly give merit to our relationships.  We can certainly give merit to our accomplishments.  And we can certainly give merit to our plans and to who we are.  We can also give merit to the simple and free pleasures; nature, and whatever pleasures you fancy like a great meal, a glass of wine of a delicious cup of coffee.  It is really truly up to us.

Instead of wishing for the job, money, partner that we want and may not have yet; let’s enjoy the friends, family or accomplishments already achieved.  Let’s strategize where we want to go, but let’s live in the present.  Let’s find in each moment the richness that creates it, because even in loss and sadness there is great wisdom to be experienced.

Don’t sell yourself short and trash the life you have for an imaginary happiness.  Because the truth is: happiness and contentment are not results from anything outside ourselves.  It all comes from within.  And if you agree with that statement it is in your reach to achieve contentment right NOW.


Simple Moments = Fulfillment

December 30, 2010 by  
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Last night, as I’m getting ready to go to my Yoga class a dear friend of mine calls to invite me for dinner.  I first hesitated as I was planning in eating light – post Christmas’ belly blues – and then watching a movie.  At the end I said yes as I really love this friend.

I had a really nice slow, stretching Yoga time and then drove to her house through the great winds gushing through Los Angeles.  It was almost 9pm when I arrived.  My friend was already in the kitchen preparing our dinner.  She sat me down at the candle lit dinning-table, plopped my favorite cheese in front of me and then handed a glass of Champagne.   As I filled myself up with bread, cheese and Champagne we talked about the changes we want to see happen in our lives in the coming year and about friends and family.

At around 9:30pm my friend served a most fabulous sushi dinner; yellowtail, tuna, fish roe and a salad.  As we ate, drank and talked I was reminded of how little it takes to create a magical moment; a good friend, good food, a glass of Champagne and candles.

So often we are focused in chasing after the big things; a better job, relationship, money, and we either don’t create or don’t appreciate the simple moments which are the foundation of our well-being.

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