A Home Is A Home Is A Home

December 26, 2011 by  
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A house is not a home unless it contains food and fire for the mind as well as the body – Benjamin Franklin

As we approach the end of the year and things are quieting down I too take my days in with less hurry.  As I do, I’m brought back to how much my home is important to me, and how much a home is important to anyone.

In the classic film “Gone With The Wind” Scarlett O’Hara drew her strength from her plantation, Tara.  I’m sure it was not the structure of the house or its riches that made Scarlett endure anything and everything to save her house.  It was because her house was her home.

A home can be a studio apartment or a mansion.

It truly has no relationship with money.  Many feel alone in a mansion while others fulfilled in a simple small apartment.  Feeling home is not physical, it is emotional.  A home comforts, soothes and protects.

Make the time to turn your house into a home.  Without a home one does not have a resting place to energize and let go.

Find what makes you smile and surround yourself with those things.  Find what inspires you.  Make your home be a reflection of you.

From the web:

1)      Home is where the heart is.

2)      Home Sweet Home.

3)      You can travel the world to search for what you need, but when you return home, you’ll find it.

4)      There’s no place like home.

5)      You can buy a house but you have to make it a home.

6)      A home is not defined by its structure but by the people who fill it.

7)      A person who hopes to change the world must begin at home.

8)      It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

9)      There is nothing like staying at home for real comfort.

10)  Home, the spot of earth supremely blest, A dearer, sweeter spot than all the rest.


Finding Freedom By Letting Go

September 28, 2010 by  
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Yesterday I sent an email to a friend I had not spoken to in 7 years.  We used to be very good friends but parted ways when I decided to change how I experienced my life.  By no means am I blaming her for my past life or how I used to live it.  The separation happened because as I embarked on a path of a less self-destructive life, she did not want to come along.  She still believed living in chaos was the only way to exist and so I let the relationship go.

In my email I let my friend know even though we have not spoken in many years I only have love for her.  A few hours after I sent the email a thought hit me; what if she doesn’t respond? My pride was sticking its ugly head out in fear of rejection.  Now when I first sent the email, all I had in my heart was positive feelings but when the thought of rejection hit me, for a moment I regretted sending the email and felt stupid.

The experience made me think about pride. Not the good kind, such as empowering ourselves by accepting and being proud of who we are, but the bad kind where our ego is so frail that we think we must defend ourselves with all the pride we can muster.

In Greek mythology the myth of Sisyphus tells the story of pride and its consequences.

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The Science Of Problem Solving

June 2, 2010 by  
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Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it. – Mark Twain

Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen.  Keep in the sunlight. – Benjamin Franklin

Flowers CarolinaIt is so easy for us to not only wallow in our present difficulties but also add all the perils we believe are looming next week and the week after and before we know we are either so stressed we can’t deal with anything or completely paralyzed under the weight of it all.

Anybody over the age of eighteen has already experienced many times over that 1 – Life changes on a dime,  2 – Often the scenarios we imagine never come to fruition,  3 – What we do in the present affects the future.  So stressing about what might happen becomes a waste of time and energy. We must live in the present moment.

Let’s now think about what Mark Twain said above:  we must drag our thoughts away from our problems.  Why?  Because just thinking does not resolve anything, it actually adds to the problems.

So what do we do?

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