The Truest Love Of All

January 19, 2011 by  
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heart on the beach

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by Deborah Calla
I was married at age 20 to a man who was 11 years my senior. When I married the man, I was a recent Brazilian arrival doing a lot of drugs and hanging out with all the wrong people. I thought getting married would settle me down and straighten me out, but instead it marked the beginning of the worst period of my life. The man was intelligent and creative, but he was also possessive, manipulative and had an ego that didn’t allow any other human to occupy the same space as his. Within the first year the intelligent man showed himself as delusional and abusive…Continued


Reminder: Do Not Judge

July 23, 2010 by  
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In my neighborhood of Silver Lake, California, until Wednesday (7/21/2010) lived a doctor Marc Abrams who was known as the “Walking Man”.

Marc was a famous fixture in my neighborhood of eclectic people.  He walked 20-30 miles a day as well as swam for hours on a daily basis.  Until last year he practice medicine and once upon a time he had been my late husband’s doctor.

Marc walked with a purpose and if you had a burning medical question rather than get on the phone and wait for a return call, you just needed to drive around until finding him and then get out of the car and walk with him.  He gave you all the time in the world as long as you kept up with him.

No one would ever think Marc would commit suicide.  Of course the entire neighborhood knew something had to be off but no one thought Marc would stop walking by his own accord.

Reading about his suicide again made me think none of us know what truly goes on each other’s heart and how each one of us processes information.  Every day I remind myself to be less judgmental and more accepting as who knows what battles have been waged that have allowed any of us  to be standing here?

Man is harder than iron, stronger than stone and more fragile than a rose.  ~Turkish Proverb

RIP Marc.


Free Prom Provides Respite For Teens With Life-Threatening Illnesses

June 26, 2010 by  
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Los Angeles, California (CNN) — Anna Rahm spent her senior year of high school enduring chemotherapy sessions, blood and platelet transfusions and multiple surgeries, including the amputation of her right leg in October.

“Living with a life-threatening illness every single day, you just wonder if this could be your last day,” said Rahm, who was diagnosed last summer with a rare bone cancer called osteosarcoma.

But last week, the 18-year-old from Chatsworth, California, was able to receive her diploma and attend a one-of-a-kind prom with nearly 200 other teenagers also living with a life-threatening illness.

The annual No Worries Now prom is the brainchild of 20-year-old Fred Scarf. The event is intended to give the teens an opportunity to celebrate their life and their youth in an environment of acceptance and camaraderie…Continued



June 5, 2009 by  
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Although I’m not a native of California (big surprise), I have resided here long enough to pick up some pretty easy to form habits.  Deciphering environmental license plates of car owners in the Golden state can be a real challenge from time to time.  Just recently, I stopped for a traffic light at the intersection of Wilshire & Westwood.  A car length ahead of me, in an adjacent lane, was a late model vehicle (manufacturer and model will remain anonymous for obvious reasons that follow) with “LN2LVME” as identified on its license plate.

Having gotten fairly astute at this pastime, I, short of a second or so, made this translation: LN2LVME  = Learn To Love Me.  Most of you reading this, in spite of what thoroughfare you use to get around your town, probably would have guessed the same as I?  Shortly after awarding myself, again, for “discernment of the not so obvious”, I thought about something that should have been very obvious.

It came to me in a flash.  If I was correct in my presumption, this was a plea to, perhaps, a lover, a spouse, a child … whoever … for the intended to be loved or to be more appreciated or just to be paid attention to.  Clearly, I thought, this was a person who felt misunderstood, even  “unloved”?  How sad, I went on to conclude that this was someone who was calling in desperation to get what we all need.  Love.

Then my thoughts evolved to a level more discomforting than the first?  What if this person was beyond a request, but had given up on love?  What if “LN2LVME” actually meant Learn to Leave Me”

The lesson I got from a person whom I probably will never meet but may have encountered the likes of more times than I know, was simply this:  Don’t be in so much of a hurry that you don’t pay attention to the ones that you mean so much to.  Sometimes the signs of their needing you are not easy to see.   Hopefully, you will respond in kind to the plea as suggested in my first interpretation of the license plate message rather than that of the second, which could be too late.  Remember, the signs of the times are all around us, even at a busy intersection in one of the heart of Los Angeles, the City of the Angels….