20 Questions That Could Change Your Life

January 28, 2011 by  
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Navigating through all my favorite sites I found this fun and potentially important post by Martha Beck in which she lists the 20 most important questions – voted by O Magazine readers – one should ask themselves.

What I find fun and potentially important is that making up lists demands that we stop and think what really is essential to our own lives.  And what changes could really bring more fulfillments into our lives. So before you jump into reading Martha’s post here are a few suggestions for lists.

1                     – 10 things I want to do this year

2                     – 10 things I want to change about me

3                     – 10 fun things I should be doing on a weekly basis

4                     – 1 fun thing I should be doing on a daily basis

5                     – 10 things I can do that would change my life

There are no right or wrong answers.  There is only what is true to each one of us.  So take out or pencil and paper or turn on your computer and pick a list from the above suggestions that you would like to spend some time thinking about.


by Martha Beck, O Magazine

Finding the answers starts with posing the right questions—and Martha Beck has 20 to get you started.
1. What questions should I be asking myself?
At first I thought asking yourself what you should be asking yourself was redundant. It isn’t. Without this question, you wouldn’t ask any others, so it gets top billing. It creates an alert, thoughtful mind state, ideal for ferreting out the information you most need in every situation. Ask it frequently.

2. Is this what I want to be doing?
This very moment is, always, the only moment in which you can make changes. Knowing which changes are best for you comes, always, from assessing what you feel. Ask yourself many times every day if you like what you’re doing. If the answer is no, start noticing what you’d prefer. Thus begins the revolution…Continued


Loving What Is: Four Questions That Could Change Your Life

June 24, 2010 by  
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I really like this post by Stacey Lawson.  It is an excerpt of her interview with Byron Katie, the writer of such books as “Loving What is” and “A Thousand Names For Joy”.

The reason I like this interview is that it talks about the story WE create around an event and how that story then becomes what perpetuates our pain.   In other words the feelings we attach to an event is what keeps us stuck in that event.

I recently caught myself feeling frustrated and sad about a project I’ve been pouring my heart into but have yet to see what I thought it was the corresponding success.  I was faced with two choices either give up the project or change how I felt about it.  When I changed my expectations  I was able to continue to work on my project with the same enthusiasm I had when I first started.  I changed my thinking and with that I changed the way I was experiencing my project.  I now look forward to the work.

Stacey Lawson

Co-founder of the Center for Entrepreneurship and Technology UC Berkeley

When I read this line in Katie’s best-selling book Loving What Is, it struck a deep chord. We are often encouraged to “Stay in the Now,” and to “Accept What Is,” but the raw truth of Katie’s declaration hit home. Fighting, judging and resisting reality is simply a losing proposition. It’s stressful. And it doesn’t work … 100 percent of the time.

So what does work?

Byron Katie has developed a simple process, called “The Work,” to identify and question the thoughts that cause all the fear and suffering in the world. According to her, it is not the actual events of our lives, but the stories we hold about them, that bring us pain. The key to ending our suffering is examining our unexamined beliefs…Continued


Happy New You

January 1, 2010 by  
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As I write, a large part of the world has already welcomed 2010 into their respective time zones.  My Pacific coast allies and more to our West, are still awaiting what many hope to be the beginning of the end of a not-so- wonderful time.

For each and everyone reading this, there are just as many stories to convey the journey of 2009.  There were, indeed, more hardships endured than most would like to admit to.  Yet, while not as well publicized, there were duly memorable encounters, as well.   My aim is not counter “the bad with the good”; it’s not to take sides with who were the givers or the takers of either.  I simply want to identify the fact, that each and everyone reading this, is here, on this planet, having already sang or will be singing “Auld Lang Syne” … in one form or another.  We survived, some perceivably better (or worse) than others, but we did it.

With beginning of a new decade in a still new millennium, there will be more chances, more ways, more time … to get it right, to make it better, to see it differently, to appreciate it more … to, simply, live better.  We all … young and old, rich and poor, boys and girls, the high & mighty and, yes, the not-so high & mighty …  get another chance.

At the moment and for the last week or so, I have been slightly derailed from my everyday way of doing things.  I’ve been temporarily sidelined due to an inflamed muscle.  Painful is just one description that comes to mind when answering to the curious.  In spite of time spent in this “altered state”, I have successfully convinced myself (a great first step to just about everything) that the condition that has been assigned to me will work for me.   As a matter of fact, I insist that it will.  No, it’s not just because of a new year, but because I chose a new direction.  And so can you, if you haven’t already.

New Year’s doesn’t have a lock on resolutions … you do.  Make up your mind that you are in charge of how you live your life.  The conditions afforded you are what should, in part, be your motivation … to get the job done.  Whether it’s a family matter, a career opportunity, a school choice, a vacation spent at home or on the other side of the world …  you make the choice.  Celebrate life … everyday of the year … this one and all that follow.