The Magic Of Touching

January 5, 2011 by  
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Many years ago when I moved to New York from Brazil the thing I missed the most was human touch.  In Brazil, when you meet someone you give them one kiss on each cheek. You hug and hold hands of family members and friends.  And when Brazilians talk to each other there is a lot of hand on hand and hand on shoulder action. So as a newly arrived Brazilian in the US, I had to resort to going to get manicures just to have my hands held.

As I think about it when we were babies; touching and holding is how we communicated and experienced the world.  As we started to walk – an adult holding our hand – gave us the courage and the safety to take those first steps.

When we were kids we touched, pushed and hugged our friends.  When we started dating holding hands became a whole new experience.

I wonder when in this country we become hesitant to touch each other.

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5 Intuitions About Love And Sex You Shouldn’t Ignore

July 5, 2010 by  
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Saw the below post today and thought would make a good companion to my yesterday’s blog post The Fine Line Between Loving With Our Entire Heart And Losing It.

In my post I discuss the choices we make as we enter any new relationship.  Should I jump in with my heart first or should I spare it? I concluded by saying, jump in with an open heart and live the moment as fully as possible.  BUT also know how much is our own imagination and needs at work, that it can be short or long lived, and will not solve all our emotional needs.  Intuition, as discussed below is a very important part of the equation as well.  Staying in touch with ourselves allows us to set limits.   Read on an share your thoughts.

by Judith Orloff MD

When we’re looking for love (or under its intoxicating influence), we often miss seeing extraordinary signs and messages that pop up in our daily life to give us clues as to whether we’re on the right track. However, if you can slow down enough to recognize and listen to your intuitive intelligence, it can reveal truth, warn you of danger, or help you understand people and relationship situations in new ways. From my book Emotional Freedom, here are five types of intuitive experiences you may encounter, and what they can teach you about your love relationships.

  1. Body signals
    Your body has many ways of getting your attention. It could be goosebumps when a date feels just right or says something about you that rings “true.” Or it might be your hair standing up on the back of your neck when a creep replies to your online dating profile.How to use it in romantic relationships
    Most commonly referred to as a “gut reaction,” your body’s response to the world around you is often instant — quicker, in fact, than your conscious thought. Next time you sense your body is trying to alert you to something, check in with it. Are your shoulders tense? Is there a knot in your stomach? Or do you feel energized and excited? When you learn to read your body signals, a whole new type of information will be available to you. What’s more, you may be able to avoid getting involved with destructive, unhealthy lovers, or be curious to pursue a really good guy who, at first blush, doesn’t seem to be your “type.” …Continued