Let Go Of The Small Stuff

May 19, 2011 by  
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Learning to let go can be a life-long process, but if we are striving for a well-balanced life, it is a skill we must acquire.

We are bombarded on a daily basis by situations and people that we feel frustrate or mistreat us.  Of course we all also have the devastating loses when we have to experience living without a loved one.  But I’m not going to be talking about that “letting go”.

I want to talk about the letting go of the small stuff because that is what on a daily basis wears us out.

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Finding Beauty In Our Own Lives

March 12, 2011 by  
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I have many friends who live with a physical disability.

I’ve always had great empathy for others, but since my late husband’ illness and passing, I have added knowledge to my empathy.  That may explain a great new number of people that have come into my life suffering some form of loss.

Every day I learn from one of my friends what it is to live with a disability.  The struggle doesn’t end with the acceptance of the loss.  There is self-esteem, reinventing a life, and there is the constant health struggle.

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What Do Dogs And Letters Have In Common?

May 27, 2010 by  
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Shai 002Even though I have two dogs I only watched Marley and me for the first time last night.  I loved the film but the last monologue of Owen Wilson at the end of the film was perfect: A dog doesn’t care what car you drive, where you live, if you are rich or poor.  “Give your love and it will give you its heart.”

I know it’s sentimental but how amazing to be fully loved for who we are regardless of our successes and failures.  Love for love.

This morning I was reading a post on CNN.com (http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/05/27/letters.irpt/index.html?hpt=C2) on how significant it is to receive a letter in the mail versus an email.  The people and examples the post used talked about being able to feel the writer’s emotions and intends in the letter, something they could not have experienced in an email.

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Love And Kisses

April 10, 2010 by  
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Love has no desire but to fulfill itself.  To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.  To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.  ~Kahlil Gibran

But where do we find love, the romantic kind? If you are out of school and have entered the work force, finding that special someone can be a daunting task.  Most of us work full days and then run errands before wanting to vege out in front of a TV.  Weekends are often spent with so more catching up.

We tell our friends and family we would like to be in a relationship but don’t seem to meet enough people.  Someone then suggests what about a dating site, or some other speed dating organization.  So we give it a try and then use some of the hours we would spend with our friends or running errands to sit in front of a computer.  Before we know we are exchanging emails, phone calls and sometimes actual meetings.

This seems to be all well and good except that in all this activity we leave out a very important tool in meeting others; living in the moment.  How many people do we actually interact on a daily basis?  Think about it.  Coffee shops, dog parks, dry cleaners, super-markets, wine bars, movie lines etc.  What if we were open and present?  Could we make friends?  Could we meet someone we could become romantically involved with?  Could we meet someone who could introduce us to someone else?  Maybe.  But just as maybe as meeting someone online.  Plus by living in the moment we build a life with less anxiety and more spontaneity.  We live in the world and we build connections.  So don’t spend all your time running around or in front of a computer.  Go out do things and meet people while having a good time.

How did it happen that their lips came together?  How does it happen that birds sing, that snow melts, that the rose unfolds, that the dawn whitens behind the stark shapes of trees on the quivering summit of the hill?  A kiss, and all was said.  ~Victor Hugo


A Special Email

June 17, 2009 by  
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Today I received an email from someone that had visited the site.  She mentioned being “nudged” by me to start writing again.  She had written a couple of books in the past and now was a French professor.

While this woman was obviously very accomplished she had also gone through many trials in her life. Events seemed to have taken the life out of her writing and so she hadn’t written anything for a few years.

How amazing that with words I was able to impact someone in a positive way.  How amazing that her email made me so satisfied.  It was not about my ego but about succeeding in doing something that was so important to me.  The Love Project was and is for me and hopefully for others, a way to focus on the positive.

I know it may sound corny or contrived but I had lost some much that I came to a point that all I wanted was to change the focus in my life.  I have not become a smiling fool.  I hurt and I get frustrated like everybody else but there is a difference; I stop to think if my being upset is really worth what is happening and I must confess in most cases it isn’t.

Life doesn’t change in its goal to keep putting obstacles in our way but what can change is how we go about overcoming them. 

I don’t know what the future will be like and who I will be but for now I’m trying to embrace all that is good within me and share with others.