The Way We Grieve

September 15, 2010 by  
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Yesterday, a friend sent a post, The Way We Grieve Now, she had read on . She thought I would “enjoy” reading it.  I did.

In the post the writer, Piper Weiss, describes the different ways people have coped with loss. Michelle Williams (who lost Heath Ledger) found solace in gardening.  Gwyneth Paltrow who couldn’t cut her hair when her father died because that was the hair he knew, then one day she had to get it cut right then and there because her moment of letting go had arrived.

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Learning To Live In The Moment

September 13, 2010 by  
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What would you do if your child was born with Down’s  Syndrome? Or if your husband was diagnosed with a terminal illness? Or if your house was lost in a fire? Or if your son or daughter was being sent to a war zone?

May you never have to actually answer these questions but being aware that someone is having to answer one or more of them right now, is important.   I’m not being doom and gloom but being aware of life’s frailty helps us remember to embrace the people we love and our lives in as it happens with full commitment.

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Memorial Day Quotes

May 28, 2010 by  
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Much inspiration can be gained from the people that have made the ultimate sacrifice when fighting for an ideal they believed in.

A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.

-Joseph Campbell

Each man is a hero and an oracle to somebody.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Peace to each manly soul that sleepeth;

Rest to each faithful eye that weepeth…

– Thomas Moore

Spirit, that made those heroes dare
To die, and leave their children free,
Bid Time and Nature gently spare
The shaft we raise to them and thee.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity

-William Penn

On thy grave the rain shall fall from the eyes of a mighty nation!

-Thomas William Parsons
But the freedom that they fought for, and the country grand they wrought for,
Is their monument to-day, and for aye.

– Thomas Dunn English
The patriot’s blood is the seed of Freedom’s tree

– Thomas Campbell

The brave die never, though they sleep in dust:
Their courage nerves a thousand living men

-Minot J. Savage

All we have of freedom, all we use or know –
This our fathers bought for us long and long ago.

– Rudyard Kipling, The Old Issue, 1899

The dead soldier’s silence sings our national anthem.

– Aaron Kilbourn


Dare To Be

May 8, 2010 by  
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Human Hearts

Human Hearts

Freedom lies in being bold.  ~Robert Frost

We are so goal oriented and afraid that we often squash life’s fire.  It is a tough balance but there is one between being reckless and too safe.

Pick a day and throw all caution to the wind.  Pick a day and be different.  Pick a day and live every sane thought that pops into your mind.  Challenge yourself.

Life needs creativity to prosper.  And we need change to grow and to learn.

As we grow older and understand the cost of loss we become more careful.  We don’t want to suffer and we don’t want to lose.

I think the balance is in reading our true selves – not a neurotic or scared version of us -and giving ourselves the support we need to dare.

There is no strong performance without a little fanaticism in the performer.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


In Norman Lear’s Words

February 5, 2010 by  
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Norman Lear is the creator of such shows as “All In the Family”,  “The Jeffersons”, “Sanford And Son” “Mary Hartman, Mary Hartman” among others.

Norman Lear has long regarded the life of the spirit as one of the great human imperatives of our time.  In a series of speeches and articles over the years, he has urged a frank exploration of spiritual questions as a way to discover what human beings, despite their many differences, may truly hold in common.  As he once put it, “If we think of our many and varied religions as uniquely different trees along a thousand-mile river – and appreciate that they are all nurtured by the same stream – can we not agree to discuss that stream openly, freely, and anywhere and everywhere – as a common river of values?  It nurtures all of our spiritual traditions while uniting us as a species.”

Below is a letter from Norman Lear.

Dear Mr. Kohl:
Thank you for your invitation to join the Woodland Historical Document Collection.

At 65, I’m not sure that my ‘spiritual journey’ has yet begun. It seems to me that I have spent most of my life packing for the trip. At 650 years old, I might still think myself in the process of packing.

The big question, I suppose, is ‘What am I packing?’ Well, the life and words of Jesus, of course. Not Jesus as he has been interpreted, but the Jesus we know from his own words and by example.

I wrap carefully and take with me, too, the memories, taste, touch, and feelings for and from that handful of individuals over the years who managed to live and love in a small C christian way, so purely and uncomplicatedly, whatever their religion.

Finally, I take with me every great piece of religious writing I have the strength to carry, but especially the words of George Bernard Shaw and Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Accompanying me, too, on the eternal journey to spiritual understanding, would be my own half-baked gleanings from what I have experienced, seen and read. Summing them up, I believe, first and foremost, that nothing in our world has or will occur as an accident of nature. Everything has meaning. At least, something has willed all that was, all that is, all that will come. If there was nothing before that will, then that will is God. And everything that exists is, at the time it exists, a silver of that same will, that God. Shaw believed that man provides the hands and mind to implement that will. To Shaw, the hands and mind of man now work in collaboration with God (that will) to complete the task of perfection ‘ perfection in the natural world and perfection of man.

I like that. It appeals to my sense of reason. Science tells us everything started with the big bang. If science is correct, we know that all those billion of years ago, the natural universe (or worlds of universes) was naught but chaos, all vapors, gases and planetary collisions. Today, science reports of an incredible, breathtaking order in the universe and among the universes. Quite an improvement.

Similarly, man began as some kind of amoeba and followed the evolutionary pattern from sea creature to reptile; to land creature on four legs to land creature on two legs; from the paleolithic age to the neanderthal age (in whatever order came first, I do not know) through all the other ages my limited background in science will not allow me to detail, until we arrive at man the way he is today. Man, with the mind and the hands to assist the original and divine will in the achievement of universe perfection. Quite an improvement also.

Ah, but if one accepts the above, the best is yet to come. Because granting how far man and his natural world have come along the evolutionary path and granting that he is only what ‘ 30%, 50%, 62% along the way? ‘ how dare he not believe that it gets better all the time and that man and his world will not ultimately reach perfection?

It is all there for us. Someone once suggested that there are spiritual currents on which man’s heart may soar just as birds fly on currents of air. The thoughts I have tried to express above cause my heart to lift whenever I care to think of them, and if I hold those thoughts long enough, I can feel my arms stretching out symbolically and my spirit begin to soar on those spiritual currents. Emerson said that we lie in the lap of an immense intelligence; that all truth, beauty and justice is in a sense part of the natural world. Man does not own it; his soul merely allows passage to its beams. I believe all of that, too. More spiritual currents on which to soar.

One more thought: Victor Hugo said that ‘to love another person is to see the face of God.’ That may be the straightest line of all to ultimate spiritual growth. But when you think of how Jesus loved, it may also be the most daunting route of all.

Lucky there wasn’t a window open in my study when I began to set down these thoughts or I might have flown out of the room before telling you have much I’ve enjoyed answering your query.

Yours sincerely,

Norman Lear


To laugh often and much…

May 11, 2009 by  
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To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch…to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have succeeded!

Ralph Waldo Emerson,  (1803 – 1882) whose original profession and calling was as a Unitarian minister, left the ministry to pursue a career in writing and public speaking. Emerson became one of America’s best known and best loved 19th century figures.