Don’t Let Computers And Gadgets Take Over Your Life

December 8, 2010 by  
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Computers, smartphones, iPads and others, are all great communication and entertainment gadgets.  But what are the consequences of our complete enslavement to them?  Our lives have become so dependent on technology that we basically have to shut down when our internet isn’t working or our smartphone goes MIA.

How common has become the scenario of people walking by each other without any sign of acknowledgment because they are on their phones?  Or what about smartphones adorning tables at restaurants?

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Just Do It, Unplug Now

May 6, 2010 by  
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There is so much to write about unplugging but before I start typing away, let me make a disclaimer: I’m not a new age anything. There are no crystals under my bed and I don’t know if my house is Feng Shui acceptable or not. But I am a woman who has lived on this planet for more years than I care to share and who is in constant search of a meaningful life.

Having said that, I must now say I am a true believer of unplugging. We all know that “more” does not equal “better”. So why do we all have bought into this idea that if we aren’t busy and reachable 24/7, we are unproductive or even worse; things aren’t going to happen?

We have to realize that all this running around, holding on to mobile phones, computers, internet, and trying to keep up with everything, is leaving us, our families and friends behind. We are also jeopardizing the quality of our creativity, love and sexuality – life’s energy sources – because these feelings and inspirations need space, calm and attention to thrive.

Technology is a great advancement in human development but it is meant to be in addition to our relationships to ourselves and others and not instead of. The result is today we are a nation of stressed out overachievers without having become an ounce happier.

Every research done on happiness points to the following ingredients for achievement: a feeling of being loved and belonging, time to connect with others and nature, and a healthy relationship to self. But who can reach any of that if we can’t put our smart phones aside for even a moment?

If you are feeling stressed out and overwhelmed, you have to ask yourself is it worth being known as someone who is always on the go? Think about it and hopefully the answer will most likely be no.

Once you decide something needs to change the next thing is how, and here is the great thing: you don’t need to totally change who you are and what you do to decompress on a daily basis and have a more fulfilling life. What you need to do is find what is in your life that brings you calm and satisfaction and do it every day. I’m not talking about travelling to the Himalayans or spending a day at the spa. I’m talking about things that are easy and inexpensive to do.

For me decompressing is sitting outside in my yard and being quiet, even if it is only for 10 minutes. I have a very close relationship with my house so sitting outside and listening to the birds with my eyes closed, feeling the sun and the breeze grounds and brings me peace. I also love wine and food but if I throw some food on my plate and wine in a glass and eat and drink like I haven’t in a year, the magic is gone. So I unplug by taking the time to prepare and taste my food and my wine. I give it the attention and the intention to make it special.

These small actions have the power to slow me down and make me “be” in the present. And when I am in the moment, I don’t worry about the past, because it’s gone, or the future, because it has not happened yet. Being in the moment is healing and has the power to regenerate us. It is active meditation.

There is no race to be won; there is only life to be fully lived. Remember the old saying: “you can’t take it when you die”. What you do take is how you felt and how you made other people feel.

So when you have mastered the short time unplugs go for the gold and take a full day off by putting your phone and computer aside. It will be life changing.


Go Ahead And Unplug

April 20, 2010 by  
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We all know more does not equal better.  So why do we all have bought into this idea that if we aren’t busy 24/7 we are unproductive?  We have to realize in all the running around, mobile phones, computers, internet, we are leaving behind ourselves, family and friends.  We are also risking losing the quality of our creativity, love and sex- which are life’s energy sources – because these feelings and inspirations need space, calm and attention to thrive.

Information and technology are a great advancement in human development but they are suppose to be in addition to our relationship to ourselves and others and not replacements.  We have become a nation of stressed out overachievers without becoming even one ounce happier.

So if you are feeling stressed out and overwhelmed you have to ask yourself if it is worth it.  Can you adjust your life just a bit so you can actually draw energy and power from within?  Yes, should be the answer.  Carve out a little bit of time everyday to do what feeds you.  Is that meditation? A nice meal? A delicious cup of coffee consumed with time and attention? Is it playing with your dog or cat without thinking about the things you need to do?  Is it a glass of wine?  Whatever it is, an action (even if it is to lay down with our eyes closed) done with all of our attention have the ability to recharge us.

So go ahead and unplug.


Sacred Time

April 17, 2010 by  
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I’ve been thinking about unplugging and what that means.

Much has been said about all the time we spend on the cell, computer, DVR, TV etc.

So recharging is a must.  But before you say you don’t have the time or the money let me tell you that you can do it on the cheap and in a short time.

For me recharging means slowing down enough to enjoy a good glass of wine, a good meal and my home.  My home is my Tara – for you who maybe too young to have seen “Gone With The Wind”, Tara is the home where Scarlett O’Hara (Vivien Leigh) finds her strength, rent it today.  One of the best movies ever made.  Anyway…

I realize I am fortunate to have a Tara.  I realize that many people are still searching for a place to call home while I have found mine.   But regardless, I do know we all have something that is special to us.  Find what that is for you and do it.  If you have kids, send them to your family or in-laws for a night and do it.  If you are restricted financially, there are still many things that can recharge you without costing you lots of money or time.  A bath? A meal? A glass of wine? Meditation?

Again, for me the simple action of slowing down and actually being able to savor a glass of wine, a good meal and my yard, is enough to make me feel I’m recharged and I’m ready to tackle whatever obstacle life is presenting me.  All I need to do is slow down to appreciate my wine, my meal, my yard.

Find your Tara, strengthen and recharge yourself and embrace your life.


Slow Down And Unplug

March 29, 2010 by  
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Take A Day Off

March 27, 2010 by  
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I want to remind you to take a day off this weekend.  Either today or tomorrow please don’t work, don’t clean and don’t run around from task to task.

We must unplug and recharge to have satisfying and healthy lives.  Working non-stop doesn’t make us more productive and it doesn’t get us ahead of anybody else.  Working non-stop burns us out and creates stress in our lives.  Stress creates bad relationships and unhappiness.

Technology has in many ways made our lives and communication easy but it also keeps us “on” all the time.  If we don’t slow down we can’t appreciate the gifts life gives us every day.  If we don’t slow down we choke on a beautiful meal or on a complex wine which is meant to be savored sip by sip.

As I grew up in another country and have family living all over the world, I intimately know how other people live.  While the whole world is plugged in nobody is as plugged in as we Americans are.  We work seven days a week and maybe take one or two weeks off a year while the rest of the world takes a least four weeks off a year.  We have very few national holidays while other countries have double or triple the amount of holidays.

Relationships need attention.  We need to slow down and spend quality time with our friends, family and mostly with ourselves.  How can we check within if we continuously go from being super busy to super stressed?  Life needs creativity and creativity needs space to flourish.

Last March 19th and 20th, from sundown to sundown, a national unplug day, was promoted by the Sabbath Manifesto.  Below are the principles they promoted.

The Ten Principles

01. Avoid technology

02. Connect with loved ones

03. Nurture your health

04. Get outside

05. Avoid commerce

06. Light candles

07. Drink wine

08. Eat bread

09. Find Silence

10. Give Back

Please join me in taking a day off every week.  This ancient concept of rest is as important as anything else we might think of doing for our health and work.