Living Life In Black And White

May 28, 2010 by  
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”The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”
Albert Einstein

I’m one of those people whose natural tendency is to see the world as black and white.  I’m right then you must be wrong.  I’m good then you must be bad.

I have had to work hard within my own psyche to see the world as it is; grey and messy.

Living life in black and white mode causes a lot of unnecessary suffering.  If we are good and right then when wronged it is easy for us to feel 1 – that the whole world is against us, 2 – as a victim.

We are neither a victim nor the whole world is against us.  Other people are too busy trying to make sense of their own lives.

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November 30, 2009 by  
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Everybody has problems.  That is an absolute truism but somehow, sometimes we forget that.  We see someone well put together and smiling and we think that person has it all.  But if we go back to our truism, we know that just can’t be true.

Some of us choose to be exposed, to not hide our feelings from the world and actually to want to be acknowledged for our pain as if no one else is in pain.

Some of us carry our pain within and don’t want any extra attention for whatever is going on in our lives.

I’ve come to realize that bringing the whole world into my pain only results in keeping me in pain.  Living in that frame of mind keeps me and you focused on pain.  Keeps us getting attention for being in pain and not for being happy or elated.

Victimization only strengthens our slavery to pain.  Keeping pain in its own space and pushing forward offers us a possibility to move on.

I know sometimes it’s hard to see beyond the disappointment and loss but know the way out is only possible through truly believing in the possibilities of life.